How She Does It All?

Pasca Lebaran! Gubrak gubrak jenng jeng jeng..ahey!

Hi,

Senang banget hari ini aku bisa balik nulis lagi. After 8 months??

Ceritanya I’ve been focusing my self a lot learning And Studying Pilates. And Long story short, yes I Have left my work as Group X Instructor.

And….anyway, this June, aku menjadi Pekerja Paruh Waktu yang dimana tetep belajar, Pilates, tambahannya Social Media consulting dan Agency yang dikelola sama sama temen kuliahku. Sambil terus terima PO Susu Almond Homemade (cobain yuukks) .

Awalnya semangat bingiits, sampai akhirnya Si Mbak Kadek yang cukup Lehendarys itu, pergi tanpa kabar. Wa gila sih macem LDRan abis.

Then how?? Gimana caranya gue tetep kerja, sambil ngangon si Haka yang beranjak gede ya, masak, ngepel, dan sebagainya.

Jujur, setelah kira kira 1,5 bulan, aku baru nemu polanya yang ngeKlik setelah berhari – hari sakit akibat stress di PehApe-in si Mbak, plus harus tetep kerja yah.

Jadilah setelah seminggu pasca Lebaran, aku singsingkan lengan, betat betat otot dengan pekerjaan rumah.

Apa sih sehari hari pekerjaan dirumahku itu? Atau what are my main house chores?

1. Bersihinin 2 kamar tidur itu pasti

2. Sapu dan Pel, nah ini minimum ya 2x shari. Entah gimana ya, debu itu banyak banget, dan lately baru ngeh bahwa ya bukan rumahku yang kotor (blagu..) tapi ya memang debu itu dibawa oleh angin dan udara (syedih..)

3. Nyuci baju, jemur

4. Masak

5. Ngangon Haka.

6. Nyuci Piring.

Ya elaah, gitu aja ya?

Ya iya sih kali gitu aja…ditambah sama kerjaan men. Yang meskipun sekarang banyak aku kerjain dirumah, pas senggang. Tapi tetep aja loh, cukup bikin tepar dan kalang kabut.

Akhirnya, si ayah bilang…dibawa santai ajaah.

Oke beklah…meski awal awal pake nyinyir semilir …ye iyee, pan gue yang beberes, situ mah nyante ajeee.

Tapi akhirnya aku berhasil scheduling semua untuk dijalanin.

Apa sih yang dilakuin?

No 1…Boong kalau aku buat Plan and follow the exact plan. Yang Jujur. I did plan my weeks. Hari Minggu, aku akan note apa aja kerjaan dan meeting serta appointment yang harus aku lakukan, termasuk plan jaga Haka, mau makan apa. Namanya juga niat, pas hari H, rada melenceng dikit gitu. But yes, please plan!

No.2 Koordinasi sama Nyokap dan Suami untuk jaga Anak. Nah ini aku mesti bersyukur juga. Semenjak Freelancing, aku bisa prioritasin mana dulu yang aku kerjain atau datengin. Of course tidak berarti aku leha leha males malesan ya. Tapi semua disesuaikan juga dengan kesanggupan si Ayah atau Nyokap untuk jaga Haka.

No.3 Lupakan Sejenak Menu Makanan Idaman Suami! Go Food dan paling bener..atau ke warteg kalau bener bener pingin makan rumahan. Masak pun aku simple banget, paling tumis tumisan, goreng tempe, atau ayam buat Haka sama ayahnya. Nah tips lagi ni, invest di Slow Cooker. Karena dengan punya Slow Cooker, kita tinggal celup, tidur, nyajiin besoknya. Dan slow cooker bisa masak apa aja, ga meski Sup supan.

No. 4 Bangun Pagi!

Ahey banget. Ini badan sudah otomatis kebangun pukul 4 bu ibuk. Ga tau lagi juga harus diapaain. Nah tapi keuntungannya, aku masih tetap punya jam “waras”. Masih bisa baca buku, surfing the Net, buka sosmed, lanjut bikin sarapan sambil nunggu cucian di mesin cuci. Nyiram taman, aduuuh enak bener deh pokoknya bangun pagi tuh. Warasss

No. 5 REST kapan pun bisa.

Jujur ni, aku ketiduran pas nyetrika. Dikala harus buka email, aku pilih tidur sebentar dulu. Demi recharge badan. Dan ga mesti tidur sih, kadang duduk depan TV nonton KUWTK juga sesi me time banget. Dari yang super kepikiran kerjaan terus, aku jadi restless.

No. 6 Give yourself a Reward.

Panggil tukang Pijit kalau buat aku ni. Udah. Itu doang! Paling bener.

Trus olahraganya kapan Britt??

Dengan semua kegiatan itu, dari yang setiap hari bisa ke Studio atau ke Taman buat Workout, aku cuma bisa lakuin maksimal 45min dirumah. Dan itu lebih dari cukup bikin otot ku cekot cekot.

But I Must. Aku sih tau banget, badanku tidak akan berfungsi benar kalau tidak Olahraga.

Workoutnya ngapain?

Pilates, H.I.I.T, even Yoga. Dan pastinya, pagi, aku ajak Haka jalan kaki keliling komplek sebentar kalau ga da client atau kelas. Itupun lumayan rasanya.

Lantas, gimana buat mama mama yang fulltime job?

Ive been there! For 9years!

We got to negotiate, and prioritize. Stress banget jujur. Aku ga akan bilang mudah. Tapi we can work on it. Akan ada yang harus dikorbankan. Entah itu konsentrasi atau dedikasi kerja, Me Time, social time atau bahkan waktu bersama anak dengan menitip mereka sementara pada orang tua atau kerabat.

Jangan takut Minta Bantuan, dan kalau belum dapat, coba siasati dengan berbagai Plan

Memang drama ART itu luar biasa, hanya aku sudah lelyaahh ngikutinnya. Kita bersyukur saja yuk, sudah ada Go-Clean, Go-Food, Go- auto, waahh…..dan segala fasilitas itulah. Semangat aja yah selalu. Pasti ada jalan.

Dibalik semua ini, yang aku syukurin adalah, aku memilih menjadi Freelance di momen dimana “Home Is Calling”. Padahal…jadi Freelance itu pun tetep harus yaa, kejar bola toh. Dan ga berarti jam kerja lo santai juga. Ok, sekian dulu curhat kerjaan yess.

Ibu ibuk, adek adek yang ditinggal mbak’e juga…sekedar berbagi kegilaan yang aku alami juga yah. Aku jujur aja sih ga mungkin ngaku “hidup gue baek baek aja” pasca lebaran.

Xxx

Image : Pinterest

Working Mom Tale, Dealing with the Guilt

Its Saturday and i’m gladly spending times at home again, unless the boys wanting to go out. Its been like that since i could not remember. But let me just share you a bit of why i said i’m glad.

I use to work, 15 hours a day. It was before i got married to my husband, who works in the same company with me. 8 hours was the minimum i spent at the office.

 I was a manager at one big Fitness Company in Jakarta. If you read that numbers, you might think that the company gave me such pain. But the fact they did not. I was only needed to stay in charge for 6 hours. But because i moved to suburb in 2008, and had lots of early morning and after office hours class schedule, i packed my duty to reduce the transport. That included paperworks, self practise and mentorings.

After Haka was born in 2010, i tried to reduce the time in office. I also brought him because i was breastfeeding. And in another time, i worked as Trainer for Les Mills Asia Pacific. The Job required me to travel abroad mostly on weekends. Modules normally takes 3-4 days back then. So it was pretty tuff during the first years.

As the time passed by, i moved to Gold’s Gym Indonesia and still work for Les Mills . I had  that year when i did not have a break on weekend. And honestly it was all travel for work on weekends. My Husband also a trainer for the same company (man…aren’t we lucky?) so sometimes we take turn. But in some situation, we just couldn’t. So we have to leave Haka with my mom. Man that was tuff.

I flew a lot. Sometimes 4 times in 48 hours. For example, I could flew to Aussie only for training and rushed back home. And all of it only took less than 4 days. 6hours flight, jetlags, name it. You imagine how exhausted it was. But man, i do love my job.

Working is what i love. I started working at a very young age. Not because of the need in financial ( i was young, my mom took care of us really well), but because my mom educate us to work for what we want. She allowed me to work on my early years in uni. I  did business, i made bags. And i taught Aerobic classes. To me working is passion.

And when i found out i was pregnant with Haka, everyone on my side was so supportive. The company i worked with, the bosses, my husband. Public, not so much. They re not used to have pregnant woman do planks, jumps and stuffs. But it did not affected me anyway.

The hardest part of all milestones was when Haka entered Primary. He transitioned from a bilingual learning school to National School. He needed extra helps and guidance in everyday to help him adapt with his lesson. Transitioning to full Bahasa School is not easy as we use English in our everyday convo. His grades were below the expectation and he almost failed on first grade.

And i was that frustrated with balancing my job, life and Haka.

A friend of mine, who is busier than me, had more success story from me. She’s a mother of two. A mentor of mine, she told me to cut my guild. All the time. But how…i honestly think, i’m such a weak human. It is so hard for me not to think about the kid every time i left.

so then…..

I resigned from LMAP as per August 2017. Not because i hate the job or any other issue, but to fully commit with my daily job as instructor and a mother. As well a wife.

You see, my husband never complain. He loves and proud of his wife i can tell. But me, i was stuck with the guilts. I was always away, and when i’m home. I will always suffered from sickness, or overwork. The whole things was just overwhelming.

I was a bit jealous of SAHM. But at the same time, i envy the successful working mom out there who were able to balance – or at least try balancing their life.

I’m now working 11 hours a week. Fully focusing on teaching Group X classes and leading a team of wonderful , talented people. I cant say i’m not busy but i feel well. And thou sometimes it feels weird, having lota of free time to rest, but I do enjoy it. I do miss airports thou. Haha

focusing a lot building my own wellness business. Helping small business with endorsements. And just looking forward to build future with my family.

I really suggest, we as mother, To support each other. Stop mom shaming. I seriously thankful for lots of great women around me. Some of them live here but some are not in this country, but how we stay in touch and support each other all time is just right. We hang out by skype or facetime. And i think, thats just what we need right? Supportive Women around this world.

 

xx

Britt

Beauty Class by Yves Rocher Review

Hi Lovely Friends….

Today i would like to share a review about a beauty class that I attended last Sunday. It was hosted by Yves Rocher at Aeon Mall BSD CITY.

When i got invited by Whatsapp MSG, i had no idea about what kind of workshop would it be. And because it was scheduled along with the uncertain work gathering, i wasn’t sure whether to come or not.

And at last, i came.

So it was started pretty late. Bummer. I’m not a big fan of that for sure. But since I Had a good time so lets just forget about that part.

As we arrived, we were welcomed by this beautiful table setting for 6. img20171029141255512411282.jpg

At this table as you can see, YVES ROCHER has prepared the kit we need.

  • Clean Brushes
  • Types of foundations
  • Loose Powders
  • Eyeshadows & Blush Palettes
  • Concealers
  • Lipsticks in many kinds and types
  • Wipes and Sponges
  • Cleansers and Toners

So yes, it was a Beauty Class.

They gave us a step by step basic training on how to apply our make up daily.

It all started by having our skin tested by the SPGs. And turned out, my skin is turning into dry-oily combination. But somehow, i do realised it. Because it’s pretty dry on my cheek and neck area. But not in my T zone. But most skin type are oily in the TZONE area.

 

When we did our Make Up Lesson, what I learned was,  how to layers the products on our face. 

Which was : Cleaning with cleanser ~ Toner ~Lightest Fondi or Concealer ~ and so on….to the next

On how to properly dap your eyeshadows and stuff was not really clear but it was enough for a beginner. See, I always struggling with eyeshadows and liners. I honestly suck at it. So i was expecting some more on the details.

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I am not going to list the step by step make up tutorial, but i will post one using different brand in my YouTube Channel.

So what is the benefits of this workshop actually?

First, it cost only Rp. 100.000,00 which is around $9.00 , and with that, Yves Rocher gave us A voucher worth Rp. 100.000,00 with no minimum purchase. So i bought this nice colour of lip liner and functional Scrub.

Secondly, at least now I know, how to apply those foundations, concealers and how to blend it with powder. I mean, i love the actual result overall thou I must say, It still looks like an AMATEUR kind of make up.

 It last long, cause after this workshop, i went straight to church with my make up on.  Well again, this was a very natural look for daily make up right?

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“Not Bad ha?” PICTURE ABOVE IS KAROL & Me

What i wished they’d do would be

  • Start On Time
  • Giving more specific tutorials and details on how to draw our face
  • Providing us with some highlights of the class in advance

Other than that, I’ll be hunting for more beauty workshop that won’t cost me a dime. Ha!

x

 

 

Stage Mom – Full Time Working Mom Fact

 

A fact that I never shared to public.

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I am a performer. I am a dancer, a teacher. And I was working for Les Mills Asia Pacific as Trainer and Presenter for 8 years. Who was presenting and lecturing in front of many people. National and through ASIA.

I started dancing at the age of 3. And yes, I was always performing. Traditional dance – Balinese to begin with until I was 5? And Fashion Shows, Talent Shows, Piano Concert, Ballet Performance for 11 years. Name it. I’ve spent my life on stage.

And today, I still work on many stages.

The stage is a big thing in my life. Not because of I’m a person who loves to be watched. That’s weird ha? But I just knew, that is where I belong. Being on stage always makes me nervous. Always. Everyday. Even to my regular classes.

Those who know me very close. Understand how I actually hate crowds. I hate crowds. For real. But when I was young, I had that moment where I just wanna let go and did not care about what people think. I sang in clubs. Night Clubs. So there was i…kinda lost it.

But you know, sometimes there is this lost opinions to this kind of job that I do. Stage Mom. They took it the wrong way. And start giving zero respect or honour the way we make a living.

34 Years. Today, I felt like everything slowly change. I still love being on stage, but its more about doing an artistic thing like a real dance show, or a real teaching session. And many people been asking me, why in the world, I no longer do Dance Classes that I always love doing. Or why won’t I pursue my Zumba?

Being on stage all the time, required a lot of preparation. And none of it should be done overnight, unless you received a last minute call in which i’m not a big fan of.

  • As an instructor – To teach a class, I will need to prepare a week before for one week ahead. I can’t just change the playlist or class theme on the spot. And sometimes, it is hard to say no to a request. But again, in my plan, i tried to mix and put the best workout.
  • As a Dancer – I refer this to my BodyJam™ or Sh’bam™ class. The beginning of my career, i practise everyday. For hours. I did not skip. But once i have Haka, everything changed. No it is not an excuse, i still did self practise, but this time it is hard to do everyday. And to me that is not enough. But the one thing stick to myself is that i know, i know that I love choreography. That I am able to absorb and review it asap. That is why, going back to BODYJAM™ is a natural thing to do. But these days, it was hard. Not that i could not, but it was hard to manage the time i have and with school activities. Priority needs to change.
  • As a Trainer and Presenter – Months and Weeks is a minimum period i prepare my module. I practise public speaking. I did research to relate the module content with whats happening in real life. I need to understand my preach and “practise” my preach. Practise by mean, doing what I taught.

Those things are important. You cant just do either one. And to me it was a lot.

I had that moment where I became so ignorance and just showed up with no plan. Or teaching without practise and make my class a stage rehearsal. Big NO.

And that was the reason I have to let go some of the role i have been handling this year.

I thank God i realise this earlier and had sometimes to think about. To review and reflect many things. And being with My child is what we all need for now. For him, for me and for my husband. I was not myself, and overwhelmed with many responsibilities that i have agreed before. I was not being consistent and somehow thing my self acting un-professional.

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Photo : by Lulu Artistika for Gold’sGym Stronger Day January 2017

But to those of you mothers out there. Who works as a Lecturer, Teacher, Singer, Dancer, DJ or another great job to make a living. Work double, work overtime. I think you understand this. When the curtain call, we are out there. We have to do it, even if we did not have an overnight to prepare.

We do it to make a different in someone’s life. It could be our audiences, our viewers, our trainees, students. We are there to make a different in their life.

Rise up whenever you feel guilty for leaving your babies or kids. Stay grounded when you have Golds in you pocket. Remain calm when you face the hardest storm.

This writing dedicated to All Mothers who are working hard or even a Part Time – Working From Home Mother.

Empower other Woman. Reveal our truth, our self.

 

XX

Britt