How She Does It All?

Pasca Lebaran! Gubrak gubrak jenng jeng jeng..ahey!

Hi,

Senang banget hari ini aku bisa balik nulis lagi. After 8 months??

Ceritanya I’ve been focusing my self a lot learning And Studying Pilates. And Long story short, yes I Have left my work as Group X Instructor.

And….anyway, this June, aku menjadi Pekerja Paruh Waktu yang dimana tetep belajar, Pilates, tambahannya Social Media consulting dan Agency yang dikelola sama sama temen kuliahku. Sambil terus terima PO Susu Almond Homemade (cobain yuukks) .

Awalnya semangat bingiits, sampai akhirnya Si Mbak Kadek yang cukup Lehendarys itu, pergi tanpa kabar. Wa gila sih macem LDRan abis.

Then how?? Gimana caranya gue tetep kerja, sambil ngangon si Haka yang beranjak gede ya, masak, ngepel, dan sebagainya.

Jujur, setelah kira kira 1,5 bulan, aku baru nemu polanya yang ngeKlik setelah berhari – hari sakit akibat stress di PehApe-in si Mbak, plus harus tetep kerja yah.

Jadilah setelah seminggu pasca Lebaran, aku singsingkan lengan, betat betat otot dengan pekerjaan rumah.

Apa sih sehari hari pekerjaan dirumahku itu? Atau what are my main house chores?

1. Bersihinin 2 kamar tidur itu pasti

2. Sapu dan Pel, nah ini minimum ya 2x shari. Entah gimana ya, debu itu banyak banget, dan lately baru ngeh bahwa ya bukan rumahku yang kotor (blagu..) tapi ya memang debu itu dibawa oleh angin dan udara (syedih..)

3. Nyuci baju, jemur

4. Masak

5. Ngangon Haka.

6. Nyuci Piring.

Ya elaah, gitu aja ya?

Ya iya sih kali gitu aja…ditambah sama kerjaan men. Yang meskipun sekarang banyak aku kerjain dirumah, pas senggang. Tapi tetep aja loh, cukup bikin tepar dan kalang kabut.

Akhirnya, si ayah bilang…dibawa santai ajaah.

Oke beklah…meski awal awal pake nyinyir semilir …ye iyee, pan gue yang beberes, situ mah nyante ajeee.

Tapi akhirnya aku berhasil scheduling semua untuk dijalanin.

Apa sih yang dilakuin?

No 1…Boong kalau aku buat Plan and follow the exact plan. Yang Jujur. I did plan my weeks. Hari Minggu, aku akan note apa aja kerjaan dan meeting serta appointment yang harus aku lakukan, termasuk plan jaga Haka, mau makan apa. Namanya juga niat, pas hari H, rada melenceng dikit gitu. But yes, please plan!

No.2 Koordinasi sama Nyokap dan Suami untuk jaga Anak. Nah ini aku mesti bersyukur juga. Semenjak Freelancing, aku bisa prioritasin mana dulu yang aku kerjain atau datengin. Of course tidak berarti aku leha leha males malesan ya. Tapi semua disesuaikan juga dengan kesanggupan si Ayah atau Nyokap untuk jaga Haka.

No.3 Lupakan Sejenak Menu Makanan Idaman Suami! Go Food dan paling bener..atau ke warteg kalau bener bener pingin makan rumahan. Masak pun aku simple banget, paling tumis tumisan, goreng tempe, atau ayam buat Haka sama ayahnya. Nah tips lagi ni, invest di Slow Cooker. Karena dengan punya Slow Cooker, kita tinggal celup, tidur, nyajiin besoknya. Dan slow cooker bisa masak apa aja, ga meski Sup supan.

No. 4 Bangun Pagi!

Ahey banget. Ini badan sudah otomatis kebangun pukul 4 bu ibuk. Ga tau lagi juga harus diapaain. Nah tapi keuntungannya, aku masih tetap punya jam “waras”. Masih bisa baca buku, surfing the Net, buka sosmed, lanjut bikin sarapan sambil nunggu cucian di mesin cuci. Nyiram taman, aduuuh enak bener deh pokoknya bangun pagi tuh. Warasss

No. 5 REST kapan pun bisa.

Jujur ni, aku ketiduran pas nyetrika. Dikala harus buka email, aku pilih tidur sebentar dulu. Demi recharge badan. Dan ga mesti tidur sih, kadang duduk depan TV nonton KUWTK juga sesi me time banget. Dari yang super kepikiran kerjaan terus, aku jadi restless.

No. 6 Give yourself a Reward.

Panggil tukang Pijit kalau buat aku ni. Udah. Itu doang! Paling bener.

Trus olahraganya kapan Britt??

Dengan semua kegiatan itu, dari yang setiap hari bisa ke Studio atau ke Taman buat Workout, aku cuma bisa lakuin maksimal 45min dirumah. Dan itu lebih dari cukup bikin otot ku cekot cekot.

But I Must. Aku sih tau banget, badanku tidak akan berfungsi benar kalau tidak Olahraga.

Workoutnya ngapain?

Pilates, H.I.I.T, even Yoga. Dan pastinya, pagi, aku ajak Haka jalan kaki keliling komplek sebentar kalau ga da client atau kelas. Itupun lumayan rasanya.

Lantas, gimana buat mama mama yang fulltime job?

Ive been there! For 9years!

We got to negotiate, and prioritize. Stress banget jujur. Aku ga akan bilang mudah. Tapi we can work on it. Akan ada yang harus dikorbankan. Entah itu konsentrasi atau dedikasi kerja, Me Time, social time atau bahkan waktu bersama anak dengan menitip mereka sementara pada orang tua atau kerabat.

Jangan takut Minta Bantuan, dan kalau belum dapat, coba siasati dengan berbagai Plan

Memang drama ART itu luar biasa, hanya aku sudah lelyaahh ngikutinnya. Kita bersyukur saja yuk, sudah ada Go-Clean, Go-Food, Go- auto, waahh…..dan segala fasilitas itulah. Semangat aja yah selalu. Pasti ada jalan.

Dibalik semua ini, yang aku syukurin adalah, aku memilih menjadi Freelance di momen dimana “Home Is Calling”. Padahal…jadi Freelance itu pun tetep harus yaa, kejar bola toh. Dan ga berarti jam kerja lo santai juga. Ok, sekian dulu curhat kerjaan yess.

Ibu ibuk, adek adek yang ditinggal mbak’e juga…sekedar berbagi kegilaan yang aku alami juga yah. Aku jujur aja sih ga mungkin ngaku “hidup gue baek baek aja” pasca lebaran.

Xxx

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8 Years of Motherhood

Here I present you, the award from myself to myself as a mother.

So cheesy am I right?

But i seriously think, this year, I should also reward myself for trying and trying. For another study, another hustle. Another work.

You too! If you are a mom, this award goes to you too. The annual excellent award. To reward your hard works, your tears, your sweats, and all that jazz.

All we want is just the very best for our children, sometimes we forgot ourself. That is why I posted earlier, how important it is to take care of yourself first.

I was almost or maybe I was really sick i could not stand. And when i went to the clinic, my son looked so worry. He hates seeing me sick, cause he knows, he will be by himself doing all of the things.

But you know what, thats ok right? Its ok to not cook for a day, to just rest or sleep throu the day to fully rest your body and mind. Because if Mom is sick, Most probably the boat is sink-ing (pun intended)😂

So yeah, 25 October 2018 marks the 8 years of MY Motherhood. and more years to come with….I have no idea. All i care now is I sleep well, I eat well, I work well, and…Shop well to take care my self well!

Motherhood came without manual, day offs, or salary. But to that, I should thank my son for making me smarter and better everyday at something. And I can honestly speak, I love every second being a mother to my son. I wont trade it with anything else. Dont get me wrong, i’d love to have another one.

So my speech for this award would be

I thank my husband for making me a mother (ddooooh😂) and My son for choosing me as your mom.

Have you reward yourself enough Dear Fellow Moms?

Morning Routines For Busy Moms

Mothers are busy people. I believe so.

Personally, i would wake up very early, to get my day on path. I plan my days, and i plan the family meal. So most of the time, i’ll be busy with those thing before work.

But somehow, we had that thought of doing our own thing right? Not as a mom, but as a woman. As a person. I mean, we all know what will happen next after the house crew wake up. The work begin. I mean, the busy work.

Here’s a few ideas i’ve done when i set my alarm an hour early

It could be 4:30am or 5:00am

  1. Watch TV or Netflix and have my coffee ;
  2. Switch coffee to make my own breakfast
  3. Do a 15minutes workout : HIIT – Strength Training. Just to warm up my day
  4. Bake or cook
  5. Chill and walk around the neighbourhood
  6. Following up my Online Beauty Business and setting myself a target
  7. Clean up
  8. Do the laundry when i don’t have my house assistant
  9. Write my Blog or set my blog post plans
  10. CHILL

Isn’t it nice to have our own sanity before anything ?

Hope you able to try it.

x

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Working Mom Tale, Dealing with the Guilt

Its Saturday and i’m gladly spending times at home again, unless the boys wanting to go out. Its been like that since i could not remember. But let me just share you a bit of why i said i’m glad.

I use to work, 15 hours a day. It was before i got married to my husband, who works in the same company with me. 8 hours was the minimum i spent at the office.

 I was a manager at one big Fitness Company in Jakarta. If you read that numbers, you might think that the company gave me such pain. But the fact they did not. I was only needed to stay in charge for 6 hours. But because i moved to suburb in 2008, and had lots of early morning and after office hours class schedule, i packed my duty to reduce the transport. That included paperworks, self practise and mentorings.

After Haka was born in 2010, i tried to reduce the time in office. I also brought him because i was breastfeeding. And in another time, i worked as Trainer for Les Mills Asia Pacific. The Job required me to travel abroad mostly on weekends. Modules normally takes 3-4 days back then. So it was pretty tuff during the first years.

As the time passed by, i moved to Gold’s Gym Indonesia and still work for Les Mills . I had  that year when i did not have a break on weekend. And honestly it was all travel for work on weekends. My Husband also a trainer for the same company (man…aren’t we lucky?) so sometimes we take turn. But in some situation, we just couldn’t. So we have to leave Haka with my mom. Man that was tuff.

I flew a lot. Sometimes 4 times in 48 hours. For example, I could flew to Aussie only for training and rushed back home. And all of it only took less than 4 days. 6hours flight, jetlags, name it. You imagine how exhausted it was. But man, i do love my job.

Working is what i love. I started working at a very young age. Not because of the need in financial ( i was young, my mom took care of us really well), but because my mom educate us to work for what we want. She allowed me to work on my early years in uni. I  did business, i made bags. And i taught Aerobic classes. To me working is passion.

And when i found out i was pregnant with Haka, everyone on my side was so supportive. The company i worked with, the bosses, my husband. Public, not so much. They re not used to have pregnant woman do planks, jumps and stuffs. But it did not affected me anyway.

The hardest part of all milestones was when Haka entered Primary. He transitioned from a bilingual learning school to National School. He needed extra helps and guidance in everyday to help him adapt with his lesson. Transitioning to full Bahasa School is not easy as we use English in our everyday convo. His grades were below the expectation and he almost failed on first grade.

And i was that frustrated with balancing my job, life and Haka.

A friend of mine, who is busier than me, had more success story from me. She’s a mother of two. A mentor of mine, she told me to cut my guild. All the time. But how…i honestly think, i’m such a weak human. It is so hard for me not to think about the kid every time i left.

so then…..

I resigned from LMAP as per August 2017. Not because i hate the job or any other issue, but to fully commit with my daily job as instructor and a mother. As well a wife.

You see, my husband never complain. He loves and proud of his wife i can tell. But me, i was stuck with the guilts. I was always away, and when i’m home. I will always suffered from sickness, or overwork. The whole things was just overwhelming.

I was a bit jealous of SAHM. But at the same time, i envy the successful working mom out there who were able to balance – or at least try balancing their life.

I’m now working 11 hours a week. Fully focusing on teaching Group X classes and leading a team of wonderful , talented people. I cant say i’m not busy but i feel well. And thou sometimes it feels weird, having lota of free time to rest, but I do enjoy it. I do miss airports thou. Haha

focusing a lot building my own wellness business. Helping small business with endorsements. And just looking forward to build future with my family.

I really suggest, we as mother, To support each other. Stop mom shaming. I seriously thankful for lots of great women around me. Some of them live here but some are not in this country, but how we stay in touch and support each other all time is just right. We hang out by skype or facetime. And i think, thats just what we need right? Supportive Women around this world.

 

xx

Britt

Traveling Essentials #1

Sebagai seorang ibu dan istri, tugas saya mungkin mirip sama menteri negara.

Memastikan setiap bagian internal rumah tangga teratur dan terjaga. Hehehe…plus aman sentosa jauh dari kuman.

Dalam hal ini, kebersihan pun menjadi tanggung jawab saya dong, juga kesehatan anak.

Saya sering sekali bepergian, sendiri atau bersamaan keluarga.. Dan kalau road trip, ataupun keluar kota hal wajib yang harus saya adalah sabun. Kenapa sih? Pastinya sabun itu untuk membersihkan bagian tubuh dan segalanya. Anak saya si Haka punya kebiasaan eksploring yang betul betul harus diperhatikan kebersihan tangannya. Segala apapun dia berani pegang, dan Haka itu cepet lapar, jadi selepas aktifitas, langsung cari snacking apapun. Duh, kalau tangannya sehabis main kan pasti kotor, lalu langsung melahap hap. Senewen ga sih??

Nah, kali ini..sabun mini ini yang jadi andalan saya kemanapun saya pergi.

Ringkes banget, karena ukurannya itu loh.. mini, dan cukup satu tetes aja pakenya.

Saya taruh di tas Haka, supaya dia bisa selalu bersihkan tangannya dimanapun.

Lifebuoy memang terkenal sekali di masyarakat sebagai sabun antiseptik. Wanginya pun ga nyengat banget, dan tidak bikin kulit kering.

Yang juara menurut saya, packangingnya. Mini Tube. Ada juga ukuran yang lebih besar, but you know what,…kita bisa isi ulang yang mini ini juga. Jadi ga perlu bawa kemasan besar yang makan tempat:)

Harganya dibawah 15ribu Rupiah saja. Dan Karena ga selalu ada stocknya, ada baiknya beli beberapa tube untuk stock dirumah:)

Simple dan fungsional banget kan? Buat saya yang jelas berguna banget yang kayak gini-gini. Untuk si anak dan semua juga. Khawatir nya berkurang sedikit sih, tetep harus monitor dan mengingatkan untuk cuci tangan dulu. Tapi setidaknya…sedia Lifebuoy deh:)

Xx

Stage Mom – Full Time Working Mom Fact

 

A fact that I never shared to public.

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I am a performer. I am a dancer, a teacher. And I was working for Les Mills Asia Pacific as Trainer and Presenter for 8 years. Who was presenting and lecturing in front of many people. National and through ASIA.

I started dancing at the age of 3. And yes, I was always performing. Traditional dance – Balinese to begin with until I was 5? And Fashion Shows, Talent Shows, Piano Concert, Ballet Performance for 11 years. Name it. I’ve spent my life on stage.

And today, I still work on many stages.

The stage is a big thing in my life. Not because of I’m a person who loves to be watched. That’s weird ha? But I just knew, that is where I belong. Being on stage always makes me nervous. Always. Everyday. Even to my regular classes.

Those who know me very close. Understand how I actually hate crowds. I hate crowds. For real. But when I was young, I had that moment where I just wanna let go and did not care about what people think. I sang in clubs. Night Clubs. So there was i…kinda lost it.

But you know, sometimes there is this lost opinions to this kind of job that I do. Stage Mom. They took it the wrong way. And start giving zero respect or honour the way we make a living.

34 Years. Today, I felt like everything slowly change. I still love being on stage, but its more about doing an artistic thing like a real dance show, or a real teaching session. And many people been asking me, why in the world, I no longer do Dance Classes that I always love doing. Or why won’t I pursue my Zumba?

Being on stage all the time, required a lot of preparation. And none of it should be done overnight, unless you received a last minute call in which i’m not a big fan of.

  • As an instructor – To teach a class, I will need to prepare a week before for one week ahead. I can’t just change the playlist or class theme on the spot. And sometimes, it is hard to say no to a request. But again, in my plan, i tried to mix and put the best workout.
  • As a Dancer – I refer this to my BodyJamâ„¢ or Sh’bamâ„¢ class. The beginning of my career, i practise everyday. For hours. I did not skip. But once i have Haka, everything changed. No it is not an excuse, i still did self practise, but this time it is hard to do everyday. And to me that is not enough. But the one thing stick to myself is that i know, i know that I love choreography. That I am able to absorb and review it asap. That is why, going back to BODYJAMâ„¢ is a natural thing to do. But these days, it was hard. Not that i could not, but it was hard to manage the time i have and with school activities. Priority needs to change.
  • As a Trainer and Presenter – Months and Weeks is a minimum period i prepare my module. I practise public speaking. I did research to relate the module content with whats happening in real life. I need to understand my preach and “practise” my preach. Practise by mean, doing what I taught.

Those things are important. You cant just do either one. And to me it was a lot.

I had that moment where I became so ignorance and just showed up with no plan. Or teaching without practise and make my class a stage rehearsal. Big NO.

And that was the reason I have to let go some of the role i have been handling this year.

I thank God i realise this earlier and had sometimes to think about. To review and reflect many things. And being with My child is what we all need for now. For him, for me and for my husband. I was not myself, and overwhelmed with many responsibilities that i have agreed before. I was not being consistent and somehow thing my self acting un-professional.

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Photo : by Lulu Artistika for Gold’sGym Stronger Day January 2017

But to those of you mothers out there. Who works as a Lecturer, Teacher, Singer, Dancer, DJ or another great job to make a living. Work double, work overtime. I think you understand this. When the curtain call, we are out there. We have to do it, even if we did not have an overnight to prepare.

We do it to make a different in someone’s life. It could be our audiences, our viewers, our trainees, students. We are there to make a different in their life.

Rise up whenever you feel guilty for leaving your babies or kids. Stay grounded when you have Golds in you pocket. Remain calm when you face the hardest storm.

This writing dedicated to All Mothers who are working hard or even a Part Time – Working From Home Mother.

Empower other Woman. Reveal our truth, our self.

 

XX

Britt